I just now discovered that we aren't the first to issue a 30 Day Sex Challenge. I just googled it. Apparently a CHURCH issued a similar challenge. A church! Good for them. To those crazy nympho-christians....go team!
Readers here can check it out at http://www.relevantchurch.com/30dayblog.html - I'm happy to spread the word about a church stepping into this new age and happily accepting that a healthy sexual relationship is a key component to a long lasting relationship.
There's 1 particular item on our list that we've kept trying to accomplished. We keep failing. I don't want to give it away but we WILL cross this item off!!!!
Either way, we sat down and reviewed our list and picked a new item...."Photoshoot". Again, in an attempt to help Her recognize and help display the sexuality she doesn't realize she has, seeing that first hand can go a long way.
We took everything from cute bra-and-panties pictures to rather vulgar during-sex pictures. I expected it to be much more fun than it was but again, she seemed highly uninterested. As the challenge progresses, She seems to view it more and more as a chore. This was the main problem and the reason why we started coming up with ideas to help our sex life - leading to this self-issued challenge....a complete lack of sex-drive and interest. The new and fresh concept worked for the first week. That freshness seems to have already died off for her.
And there lies my main problem. I don't have an interest having sex with someone who displays this kind of passiveness towards it. There's no "want". There's no desire. If after only 2 years it's like this, I'm left to wonder after 10 how much worse it will be?
At the days end, at least I can say I tried. Most couples probably wouldn't put in the effort. If you're here reading and experiencing similar problems, at least you're looking for a solution. Others might not do the same and continue to deteriorate and miss out on what might be an otherwise fulfilling relationship.
Wish me luck. I'm not giving up yet.
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You are so similar to me it isnt even funny. I am telling you her "disinterest" is more likely confusion. Nervousness, not knowing what to do, being out of her element.
ReplyDeleteThis is so much like who I used to be. It isnt even funny.
I should let you read my private blog I wrote over the period of 3 years. I stopped about 2 years ago (didnt need it anymore) So funny reading how negative I was about it.