She still wasn't feeling 100%, so we made last night relaxed.
Going down on each other is considered foreplay to most people. Then again, I'm sure there are men and women reading who might not be a fan of either. Personally, I love going down on my wife. It's as much of a turn on for me as I would hope (!) it is for her.
The first idea on our list was only using our mouths the entire time. No hands. No genitals. Just mouths. So, we did. Lying in bed beside each other, She leans over and asks, "Remember 'making out'?". It was more of a request than a question. We kissed for an hour. My leg between hers, grinding against each other as we kissed. She moved away from my lips and kissed every part of my body on the way down.
She spent a good amount of time going down on me and actually seemed "dedicated" to the task. She was giving it all she's worth! That might sound weird but there's nothing worse than a blowjob that just seems like a preliminary to what usually follows or her just getting what she wants.
We've had the conversation, in a very careful-not-to-hurt-feelings manner, that she does tend to be a very selfish lover. Without question or reason, I'm happy to spend a night between her thighs. If mention is given for her to do the same, it's usually met with a look. That hesitation is a huge mood killer. To the women reading, if I can offer one piece of advice - the next chance you get, without him asking, take your man's dick out of his pants and give him the best blowjob of his life. No reason. No wanting anything in return. It can and will make all the difference in your relationship. In all truth, it doesn't even have to be GOOD, it just has to happen randomly and out of the blue. You'll be surprised how quickly flowers and nice little things start showing up. It will not go unappreciated.
Anyway, after a while, I laid her down and began to repay the favor. Starting at her lips, kissing her cheeks, kissing and biting at her neck, her nipples, her stomach....everywhere. I very lightly licked and blew on the inside of her thighs and her vagina until I was happy that she was shuddering enough and started licking and sucking lightly on her clit.
A while later a bathroom break was needed. When she got back, we brought out the toys. Again, I'd be happy to spend the entire night just licking her, but she would *never* cum from that. She's vibrator dependent - but I honestly have no problem with that. I just found out last night that a girlfriend of mine would consider it an offense to her boyfriend to use a vibrator while they have sex. Like it's saying to him "you're not enough.". I don't consider it like that at all. And I love to watch the multiple orgasms that that little (it's pretty damn big, actually) vibrator and I give her together.
She laid on her back and started using her toys. She asked me to kneel beside her, leaned over and took me back in her mouth while she brought herself to her first orgasm. But again, the first one just left her wanting more. I knelt between her legs and we started having sex. We had teased and pleasured each other with our mouths for hours at this point. We had accomplished what we set out to do. We were entitled....don't judge!
Although, she was happy to finish the night the way it started. When I told her I was about to finish, she sat up and finished me with her mouth.
If I, Her or you can take anything away from this it's that oral should be something you want to give....or at least appear to! It's not about you, it's about the person you're giving it to. I guess I'm lucky to enjoy giving. Initiating that can be the sexiest start to having sex. It doesn't always have to be the mans job to get things started. Girls, nothing says "I want you....now." better than just taking what you want. Initiate sometimes. Make your man feel wanted and desired. While girls can feel loved through a simple hug or kiss or being told, men sometimes need that show of sexual desire. A little carnality (is that a real word? spell-check isn't giving me crap!) can go a long way.
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